Every Person Always Works Perfectly

Every person always works perfectly

Presupposition 9: Every person always works perfectly in accordance with their internal strategy.

            Now we have another interesting and important presupposition to discuss. This one helps us to maintain our relationships better and make the change work effective. One of the reasons for damaging relationship is the progressive awareness of imperfection; imperfection in ideologies, knowledge, social status, standard of life, income, sex etc. Human beings always crave for perfection. Even an imperfect person looks perfection in others! Imperfection leads to mismatching.

          The standard of perfection of a person depends on the internal strategy of that person. It is common among couples that during the course of marriage life one or both of the partners feels that the other partner is not up to the mark or up to the standard! This can be in the attitude, behaviour, habits, communication, caring, sharing or love making. One partner expects more but the other perform less. The partner is imperfect for the other!

          Children perform imperfectly in their parents view, they expect more. Managers expect more perfect work from their subordinates. Lazy people are always a burden to others. Poorly performing students are imperfect for their teachers. To get better result for the school and appreciation for the teachers they expect students to work (learn) perfectly.

          The fact is that every person always works perfectly in accordance with their internal strategy (map). This concept is little bit difficult to understand. Every person performs a work based on a blue print run in their brain. Let us think of the word ‘work’ practically. Suppose somebody requested you to move a chair form one position to another. Within a matter of milliseconds a ‘blue print’ of the work will be ready in your brain and your conscious mind read it out. Your neuro system gets activated and signals for actions (work) passes in line with your thought process. So it is the blue print that gets executed.

         

          Here you can raise a smart question? Whether the blue print is the same for all people? The answer is No. Why? Because blue print is being prepared in accordance with the internal map! Hence one person pull the chair and the other lift it. Some other may push it with the leg according to his strategy.  However all work perfectly according to their internal map.

          This is what is happening in the life. Every behaviour or action is perfect according to the internal strategy or map. Nobody can blame a person for his imperfection because the person is perfectly alright as per the map. If you want to change the performance of a person change his internal strategy. Usually we blame the person and put a bad remark for imperfection. Clay is just the mud for common man and for a farmer it can be the material for building dams whereas it’s a valuable raw material to mould precious arts and crockery in the hands of a ceramist. All the three will do their work perfectly according to their internal strategy. Quality of the work also depends on the map.

          No one is wrong or broken. We run or execute our strategies perfectly. But these strategies which are internal may be poorly designed or ineffective. Change the design and the strategy; you will have a better result. This is one of the important pre-supposition applicable for the betterment of relationship and life change therapies. Accept the person with his present behaviour. The present behaviour is perfectly alright for the person until the person himself or another person intervenes and replaces it with a better one.

          NLP can positively intervene and change the internal strategy of a person which leads to healing and life change. NLP provides wonderful ideas and techniques to change and bettering life through self help approach. Once again recall the presupposition every person always works perfectly in accordance with their internal strategy.