NLP Concept of Life Change

NLP Concept of Life Change

          Life change is misunderstood by many people. Some people ask why they have to have a life change since they feel no problems in their life. They are satisfied with what they have. In fact the change is a comparative word which represents an old and a new. In case of life change there should be a ‘new life’ and an ‘old life’. Again there is confusion. Why a new life? All these questions comes from the state of egotism that I have no problem and it is a shame for me if others know that I’ve a problem. This is a human psychology. And this egotism constructs a big wall against life success. I am a victim of my ego. To make it very clear and cool it is better to say ‘present life’ and a ‘better life’.

          We can view life change in different angles. Let us talk about the one related to health and the other related to wealth. Suppose I have some mental health problems or physical health problems and hence my life is not up to the mark according to my point of view. So I want to get rid of these problems so that I can have a cool peaceful life. In the same way suppose my financial status is not up to the level what I am expecting. I want to earn more money and I want to increase my source of income or change my business or job or start new business etc. In all these cases I am looking for new ideas, additional resources and solutions. When I attain what I want, I have a ‘life change’ means a ‘better life’. So I have solved out my health problems as well as my financial problems.  I can say that I have changed my life!

          Hence life change means change from an ‘unsuccessful life’ to a ‘successful life’ ‘problem life’ to a ‘peaceful life’, ‘average life’ to a ‘better life’, ‘unhealthy life’ to a ‘healthy life’, or ultimately a ‘present life’ to a ‘desired life’. However the difference between the two states depends on the personal requirements.

          To understand life change on a NLP point of view we have to discuss the ‘inner world vs life’ scenario. Figure 3 indicates how the inner world affects the life and the life change. We have discussed enough about the personality on the NLP point of view. Person’s life is a result of his or her personality. The inner world (determines the personality) of a person is developed based on the sensory input from the ecology of a person born and brought up and the subsequent filtration process. We have already discussed about ‘filters’ to some extent under the session ‘NLP concept of personality’.

         

          You have a unique thinking pattern, feelings, attitudes, behaviour and habits according to your unique inner world (internal representation). Your present mental state (moods and emotions) exactly matches with your inner world. If you are happy at this moment means your inner world creates a happy state of mind. So your present mental state or your mood is ‘happy’. Your physiology (the way you sit, walk, act, talk, behave etc) matches with your present mental state. When you are sad you act in one way and when happy you act differently. When you are angry you act differently than when you’re not. There is no doubt that when you act differently you will have a different result in life! All these means that your present life, whether successful or unsuccessful, is the result of your present mental state, which is the result of your way of thinking, attitudes, behaviour, habits etc.

          You can’t have a better life with your present pattern of thinking, attitudes, behaviour and habits. You have to change or update or adjust many of them. The extent of adjustment depends on the extent of your desired life. “When you are in Rome be a Roman” means you must make adjustments in your behaviour, habits, menu, clothing, lifestyle etc. And if you are not ready to do that you can’t dream a life in Rome! Tuning face against changes or reluctant to do adjustments is one of the major reasons of family disintegration. If we need a better personal or professional life we should be ready to do adjustments in our inner world. Then we will have a new pattern of thinking, attitude, behaviour, habits etc which results into a new state. The new state definitely results into a new outcome.

          Let us think of a depressed person. Why he or she is depressed? The simple answer is that the person thinks to be depressed! We can definitely say that it is a negative thinking about a problem that has no solution according his or her inner world. Why there is no solution? Because the person is at present thinking in a particular pattern and all of their action is exactly in line with that thinking. The person can’t think in another way until self motivated somehow or intervened by another person, a solution provider (a mentor, healer, counsellor etc).

          Let us think of another case, a businessman who wants to double his income. His present life outcome is the result of his present inner world. He should have new perceptions to update his inner world. He should make changes in his actions. He needs to change his attitude and behaviour in his personal and professional life. He needs to contact with more businessmen. He should do market survey which he has never done so far. He needs more information about the strategies of other successful businessmen. All these will change his inner world. Then he will progressively have a better life or desired life.

          This is the way NLP approaches the changes in life. I hope you now have a hold on the NLP approach towards life change. I request you to invite your friends and other interesting persons to join with this NLP training program.